Is buying violent toys for your children really that bad?

The subject of violence in video games and toys is controversial for many parents. Here are some theories to consider before you make your next purchase.

We all know violence when we see it, yet our sensitivity and tolerance for it has changed. Some parents restrict plastic water guns but allow swords. Other parents view exposure to TV and video game violence as harmful to children.

Some theories suggest that our definition of violence shifts depending on the era. While it may seem that violence is increasing, it’s actually the opposite. Have you noticed that, as time goes by, our tolerance for violence has decreased?

A few decades ago, we glorified war games like cowboys and Indians. There was also a time when, in some cultures, children had to learn how to fight and defend themselves at a very young age. While all that has changed, violence remains.

Canada has strict rules pertaining to the nature of toys and video games available on shelves. Among others, video game manufacturers are required to indicate a sensible age for child appropriateness.

The age on these games is not relative to the level of difficulty, but rather the presence of mature content, such as violence. It’s a good start, but graphically violent games are still finding their way into the hands of young children.

It’s fair to assume that the majority of children who play with toy guns, fake swords and the occasional violent video game will not grow up to be hardened criminals, or even aggressive.

Many factors influence childrens' behaviour, and toys are merely a piece of the puzzle. If your son, armed with a foam sword, engages his friend in a pretend battle playing the part of the valiant knight, there shouldn't be any negative consequences.

If the dialogue and general atmosphere of the family advocates mutual respect, kindness and communication, there’s no problem. It’s all matter of judgment and moderation.

1. Talk to grandparents and other family members and let them know you restrict certain toys you deem to be too violent.
2. If you think a game is too violent, stand your ground. Don’t give in to pressure, no matter how adamant your child is.
3. Don’t give them violent toys. Remind them that they get enough exposure to violent games at their friends' places, and they may even receive them as gifts from other relatives or friends.

Remember, leading by example is the most influential way to inform the habits of your child. Your words and actions have enormous impact on their behaviour and personality.